Inner child healing really works to heal childhood trauma

Inner child healing really works to heal childhood trauma

Inner child healing reconnecting through therapy meditation & visualization

Mental health stories | My first inner child meditation session was amazing.

Mental health story introduction

Hey everyone.  Welcome to another one of my therapy session stories.   Today I will be going over my first inner child meditation therapy.   It was a very  difficult and emotional session, and something I don't think I will ever forget.   I was surprised at how easy it was to visualize the entire scenario, and how amazing I felt afterwords.  

Even now as I am writing this, emotions are gurgling through my normal numb self.   

FEELINGS I FELT IN THIS SESSION / WARNING

This session was rough.  It stirred up A LOT of emotions that I didn't even know I had inside me.   Here are some of them.

  • Sadness

  • Shame

  • Guilt

  • Loneliness

  • Fear

INNER CHILD EXPLAINED 

Did this video give you an emotional response? Leave a comment on my blog post and I’ll share mine with you.

The term inner child work has been brought up in my therapy sessions a few times, but pretty much went in one ear and out the other.

Fortunately something was nagging me to research the topic so I decided to look on youtube for a good explanation of what exactly the inner child work is all about.   

I am not an expert in this area.  I am just passing on the research that I have come across so far.   I really like the way this video explained explained to so give it a watch.

INNER CHILD MEDITATION

After watching a few videos online, and having emotions well up, I thought I would talk to my therapist about it.  During my last session she asked me if I wanted to try an inner child meditation.  I curiously said yes, and off we went. 

Side note; I have never really had any problems meditating when someone else is guiding me through it, but I really need to start working on it.  It feels so powerful.

STEP 1 - BREATHING TO CALM THE MIND

First I was guided through some simple breathing techniques to calm my mind so I could better visualize what was going on.   

STEP 2 - VISUALIZING AND STAYING PRESENT

After some deep breathing my therapist started asking me questions about what I was seeing

I tried to visualize down to the point where I actually saw myself as a child but it just wasn't working.  I think I was trying to hard.

Once I gave up on trying to get a pure visualization ( which was an obsessive act ) I just sort of let my mind be loose, and let the visualization sort of come to me while also staying present inside my body so I wouldn't dissociate from the experience.   This worked incredibly well, and within a minute or so I was seeing my inner child for the first time.

STEP 3 - MEETING & DESCRIBING MY INNER CHILD

I visualized my inner child sitting sitting in a triangle formation with us.

inner child work healing through therapy meditation

My inner child?

I drew this months before my inner child session.

I am not gonna lie, it felt horrible seeing this visualization at first. 

  • He was anywhere from 3 - 6 years old.

  • I couldn’t nail down the exact clothing he was wearing. It seems to be morphing into different versions of clothing I have from memories or pictures.

  • He had a darkness surrounding him.

  • He was slouched over cross-legged with his head down sitting on the floor.

I could feel his feelings

  • He felt alone

  • He was scared

  • He felt neglected

  • He felt unloved

THEN I FELT MY OWN FEELINGS

  • I felt guilt and sadness for neglecting him

  • I felt excited that this was working so well

  • I was fighting back tears as soon as I saw him, but I couldn't hold on, so I just let go.

  • I wanted to tell him I was sorry

  • I wanted to tell him it wasn't his fault

  • I wanted to tell him he was loved

  • I wanted to tell him I was going to take care of him.

 I am crying as I write this....    * deep breath * 

STEP 4 - COMMUNICATING WITH THE KID INSIDE ME

I tried to talk to him, but he would not respond. He just sat there looking at the floor with his hair in his face.

  • I tried to talk to him, but it felt like he was ignoring me which was a kick in the gut.

  • I sobbed out to my therapist that he was ignoring me, and my therapist needed to interject a bit to help me get back on track. This is after all just a visualization.

  • I asked him if he wanted to go with me to someplace safe where he would be safe. Reluctantly with his head still down he nodded a yes

inner child work therapy meditation safe place

THE SAFE PLACE FOR MY INNER CHILD

STEP 5 - TAKING HIM TO A SAFE SPOT

I took him to a beach in my memory.   This was the place where I saw the ocean for the first time.    I sat him in a lifeguard chair next a fishing pier.    

  • His head was still down when I sat him in the chair

  • When he realized where he was he instantly perked up and looked around in awe.

  • I felt the darkness and his sadness melt away.

  • A calm washed over me like a finally getting to it's final resting place.

CONCLUSION - THIS IS JUST THE BEGINNING

After my  therapy session I realized that I didn’t tell him any of the things listed above.  As I was writing this I started to feel waves of sadness and guilt coming back.   Then just as fast I realized I have him in a safe place where I can visit him anytime I want to so I started taking some deep breaths and quickly visualized the beach and I was right next to him.  I apologized to him and poof I am was back to writing again feeling better than I did when I started writing this article. 

Progress!

TIPS

  • Try to let the visualization come to you.

  • Take some deep breaths to calm your mind.

  • Don't obsess over the details of the visualization, it will only distract you.

  • Be prepared to experience some uncomfortable feelings.

  • Stay present in your body. I felt like that is where the majority of communication came from.

  • Leave a comment and let me know if this was helpful

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